Respect & love.

The other day, I was streaming my church service online and heard one of the best theories having to do with a modern relationship. This may come as common sense to some but can be eye opening for others. The man spoke about how when men and women fight, it no longer is about leaving a door unlocked, hanging out with the opposite sex, staying out late, etc. SO what is the issue, when the issue is not the issue anymore? He then told a story of a women who complained about her weight and her husband bought her a diet book, they had been having some trouble so she went out and bought him another marriage book. The woman felt “he doesnt love me unless im skinnier, im not acceptable” from the book, the husband felt “she doesnt respect me, she wont respect me unless i change into the person she wants me to be. but what he really meant was “you are upset, let me help you” and she meant “I love you and want this to work, lets try something else.” Then he switched to how, right before his father died, his father said to have a good life, a husband must LOVE his wife and the wife must RESPECT the husband. You see, women are born loving unconditionally, we step towards the man we are fighting with as a sign of trying to understand them, we complain to connect. But unfortunately, men see this as disrespect so they try to step away, not to block her off but to do the honorable thing and drop it. When women see a man walk away we think they do it because they dont care enough about us, about the situation at hand or about what we have to say. So when a women and a man want to work out, he must show her he loves her and she must show him she respects him. Awesome. I understand guys a little better now thank god.

Respect & love.

The other day, I was streaming my church service online and heard one of the best theories having to do with a modern relationship. This may come as common sense to some but can be eye opening for others. The man spoke about how when men and women fight, it no longer is about leaving a door unlocked, hanging out with the opposite sex, staying out late, etc. SO what is the issue, when the issue is not the issue anymore? He then told a story of a women who complained about her weight and her husband bought her a diet book, they had been having some trouble so she went out and bought him another marriage book. The woman felt “he doesnt love me unless im skinnier, im not acceptable” from the book, the husband felt “she doesnt respect me, she wont respect me unless i change into the person she wants me to be. but what he really meant was “you are upset, let me help you” and she meant “I love you and want this to work, lets try something else.” Then he switched to how, right before his father died, his father said to have a good life, a husband must LOVE his wife and the wife must RESPECT the husband. You see, women are born loving unconditionally, we step towards the man we are fighting with as a sign of trying to understand them, we complain to connect. But unfortunately, men see this as disrespect so they try to step away, not to block her off but to do the honorable thing and drop it. When women see a man walk away we think they do it because they dont care enough about us, about the situation at hand or about what we have to say. So when a women and a man want to work out, he must show her he loves her and she must show him she respects him. Awesome. I understand guys a little better now thank god.

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